Renovation

Complacency

It can sneak up on us without even realizing it.  The troubling thing is that it is so easy to rationalize.

When we bought the house, it needed a lot of work.  I mean, A LOT!  We closed the day before Thanksgiving 2011, but our first night in the house was between Christmas and New Year’s.  We knew it was going to be a lot of work, but as with any 30+ year-old house, there are bound to be problems that creep up that you did not plan for.

For example, the previous owners had pets in the house, and did not always do such a great job of taking the pets OUT of the house.  42 sheets of OSB later, nearly killing the truck on the drive back from Home Depot, and we had replaced nearly all of the subfloor on the upstairs.  We had to paint.  We had to clean up outside.  The house was a disaster.

At the time, I was working for an insulation company, getting into work about 5:45a every day.  Once work was done, I would drive down to the house to work for anywhere from 4-8 more hours, go home to sleep for a little bit, then get up and do it all over again.  Abbie was doing the same.  On weekends we would often put in 20+ hours.

Needless to say, we got burned out.  We moved in without trim installed.  A ton of the house was far from completed.  But we were so burned out that before we knew it, a year had passed and we hadn’t done anything else on the house.  Maybe we had put up curtains, which were a nice addition, but still not much.

I had become complacent.  I won’t say that Abbie did, because she is always ready to do more, but I know I had.  Over time, we finally completed some of the trim upstairs, though as I look around, complacency rears its ugly head again and again, as I see trim boards that I know were cut, but were never nailed up.  90% of the way done, and yet unfinished.  Complacency.

There are so many little things that are so easy to do, which can greatly improve our living experience in this house.  I am going to be much more proactive in getting those little things done which do not take much time, they just take getting off the couch.

For example, the knobs on closet doors.  It’s been six years, and we’ve been resigned to opening our closet doors by sliding a toe underneath and pulling them open.  This is pure complacency.  Again, 90% of the way done, yet unfinished.

8 minutes.

That’s about how long it took to install the knobs on the closet doors, including setup.  Another 4 minutes finished the knobs in another room (ironically the first room that we “finished” for Devin when she was born).  Drill, tape measure, laser level, knobs.  Complacency kept that unfinished for six years.

It’s time to start knocking out those little things – nail up that trim, put up coat hooks in the entryway, fix the drawer in the kitchen.

What have you become complacent about?  What simple things could you do to make improvements in your life?

Closet - No Knobs.jpg
Closet - Knobs.jpg

Seeking Validation

I'll start with a little bit about myself.  I'm 32 years old, married my high school sweetheart almost 11 years ago, and we have 2 daughters, 3 and a half, and 8 weeks.

One thing that my 3-year-old has taught me is to not expect validation from her.  Just when I think I have nailed it with something for her, she'll respond with, "Ok, can I go watch Barbie?"

Doesn't she know that I spent hours, days, or weeks working on it???

One of the best examples of this was when we found out that our youngest was going to be a baby sister.  For weeks, our oldest (Devin) was adamant that she wanted a baby sister.  I have told my wife (Abbie) for years that I am going to end up in a house full of girls, but we still had to set the expectation that she might end up with a baby brother.  On the day we found out she was in fact a girl, I pulled out my phone to record Devin's reaction when we told her she was going to have a baby sister.  When I asked, "Devin, do you want a baby sister or baby brother?"

"Ummmm...brother."

That's what I get for expecting a particular reaction from a 3-year old.

 But then sometimes she gives the reaction that we hope for.

In the 8 weeks that we've been home with our youngest (Danica), and a little while before, we've been preparing an extra bedroom in the house for Devin to be her own, brand-new "big girl room."

We scraped the popcorn off of the ceiling and finished it smooth.  Side note here - if you have previously covered ceiling popcorn with something like Kilz primer, it becomes immensely more difficult to remove.  It was still worth it, but far more work than I had initially expected.

We replaced the cheap "boob light" we had installed when we bought the house with a flush-mount light with some dangling crystals.  We painted the walls pink and purple, and put up base trim and crown moulding.

It wasn't a complete surprise, as she had snuck into the room previously and already knew about the light, but needless to say, she loved it.  I know this because she started running circles around the room shouting, "I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT!!!!"

In addition to all of the work we did on the actual room itself, I am also in the process of building her a farmhouse-style bed, a chest for blankets, and a bookcase (perhaps more to come on those projects in the future).  I also made a stuffed-animal zoo, which I think contributed to the "I LOVE IT" reaction.

So, generally speaking, seeking the validation of a 3-year-old will often leave you disappointed; but, those times that they truly appreciate something you've done are hard to beat.

I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT!!!

I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT!!!

Seemingly countless days/hours fixing the ceiling and installing crown moulding...couldn't care less

Seemingly countless days/hours fixing the ceiling and installing crown moulding...couldn't care less

I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT!!!

I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT!!!

I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT!!!

I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT!!!